Behaviour in children can be hard to predict, as parents and teachers we try to prevent unwanted behaviours happening, but what do we do when they do appear?
There is not one simple answer, it all depends on your own type of parenting and what works for your child. However, the main thing that you must follow by is consistency.
Consistent – Oxford Dictionary definition:
1. Acting or done in the same way over time, especially so as to be fair or accurate.
1.1 Unchanging in nature, standard, or effect over time.
2. (of an argument or set of ideas) not containing any logical contradictions.
If you keep your behaviour management consistent, whether you are at home or you are at the supermarket or at the park, your child will know what is expected of them. Consistency is key! For example, if your way of behaviour management is to get your child to have some chill out time for a few minutes to reflect on their behaviour, chill out time should be given if you are in Dubai Mall or at your friends house, this means that your child understands that particular behaviour is not acceptable whatever environment they are in. If you are not consistent and allow your child to get away with particular behaviours if for example you are at a party and your child starts throwing objects around, instead of giving them chill out time like you would at home you give them some cake instead, you are initially actually rewarding them for this behaviour. Your child is then more likely to reenact unwanted behaviours more often to try to see if they can get this reward.
Behaviour management is not just about dealing with bad behaviour. It is about rewarding good behaviour! The best rewards do not cost any money, they are the ones that give time with you and your child, such as playing their favourite game, reading them a book or going to the park.
- Consistency is key!
- Think about what behaviour management coincides with your type of parenting and beliefs
- Praise and reward good behaviour!